on independence

• "The most courageous act is still to think for yourself." — Coco Chanel

• "Don't let anyone rob you of your imagination, your creativity, or your curiosity. It's your place in the world; it's your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live." — Mae Jemison

• "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle - "I understand now that no one else in the world knows what I should do. The experts don’t know. The ministers, the therapists, the magazines, the authors, my parents, my friends—they don’t know. All they know is what they would do. Not what I should do."

• "Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women's Anger" by Rebecca Traister -"Women's anger spurs creativity and drives innovation. It inspires action and instigates social change."

• "The Art of Non-Conformity: Set Your Own Rules, Live the Life You Want, and Change the World" by Chris Guillebeau - "You don’t have to live your life the way other people expect you to."

• "The Feminine Mystique" by Betty Friedan - "The problem that has no name—which is simply the fact that American women are kept from growing to their full human capacities—is taking a far greater toll on the physical and mental health of our country than any known disease."

• You don't owe anybody anything.

on intuition

• "Intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful han intellect, in my opinion." — Steve Jobs

• "Breaking Free from Critical Addiction: Rethinking Identity and Happiness" by Dr. Don Carter - "The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Work on being comfortable with who you are."

• "Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking" by Malcolm Gladwell -"There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis."

• "Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear" by Elizabeth Gilbert - Do whatever brings you to life. Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart."

• I don't tell most people my decisions until after I've made up my mind because I trust myself and my judgement.

• The boundary to what you can accept is the boundary to your freedom.

on relationships

• "You have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served." — Nina Simone

• "I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." — Carl Jung

• "A [partner] who is truly into you will want you by his side, not on the sidelines." - Steve Harvey (yes, I know)

• "The Second Shift: Working Families and the Revolution at Home" by Arlie Hochschild and Anne Machung -"The working mother’s dilemma is not that she is working too hard. It is that she is working in a system that has yet to acknowledge her true worth and contributions."

• The Feminine Mystique" by Betty Friedan - "Each suburban wife struggled with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night—she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question—‘Is this all?’"

• "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood -"Many women have learned to take care of others so well that they fail to take care of themselves. Loving too much often means giving too much."

• "Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward" by Gemma Hartley - "Women are expected to manage emotions and keep everyone around them happy. This invisible labor takes a toll on our wellbeing."

• The Worst Relationship of your Life will be with a Manchild (annotated/restructured)

• The words [parent] and [partner] look similar, but they're not the same.

misc

• coming soon